How To Make Your Move Easier on
|People generally have two
kinds of needs during a home purchase. First are the transactional
needs, such as searching for a home, obtaining financing, negotiating
the terms of purchase, completing paperwork and legal documents, and
arranging the move. The second are emotional needs that are involved in
a home purchase, which can be where the most stress occurs in a home
purchase. The following are just a handful of tips to help you and your
family ease the stress of moving.
|· Prepare your
you may have lived in your current residence for just a few years, the
same few years can be half the lifetime of a seven- or eight-year-old,
and can include all the years he or she can remember. Your current
residence may be the only home your children have ever known, where
they feel safe and comfortable. It may be the center of your childrens'
sure to announce the move in a completely positive way. You might talk
about how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good the schools are.
Bring your children to the new house, if you live close enough that it
is possible to do so. Otherwise, positively describe the new house.
Find out what your children's favorite things are in your current home,
and then try to re-create them in the new home. Keep your children
actively involved in the process. For instance, don't just promise that
they can decorate their new rooms, but take them shopping for paint,
bedspreads, carpets, and other items that will make the experience more
fun and comforting.
children are bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during the move.
They may be moving away from friends and family they have known their
whole lives. Find ways to make parting pleasant. You can plan a
going-away party and let your children invite their own guests. Take
pictures of everyone and create a photo album. If your children are old
enough, allow them to take pictures of the neighborhood that they will
want to remember.
|· Gain knowledge
may feel a sense of being out of control, as though other parties to
the purchase transaction are running the show and you're merely getting
in their way. Your mortgage company, the appraiser, the inspector, and
the seller all have certain powers to approve or disapprove of your
overall plan to purchase this home and move successfully. This is
certainly not easy!
this can feel stressful, one of the best things you can do for your own
peace of mind is to understand as much of the purchase process as
possible. Your Realtor® will be able to prepare you for unknowns
ahead of time and tie down loose ends as soon as possible.
|· Trust the
can be so much to do that it's easy to panic. It may feel like you're
taking a big risk, but the truth is that you're initiating a big
opportunity for you and your family. Even though you can't predict what
will happen every step of the way, your Realtor® helps people buy
and sell homes as a profession! Your Realtor® has been there before
and understands that this is a major upheaval in your life. Trust that
your Realtor® is looking out for you on your way to a successful
closing and move.
|· Be flexible
that your Realtor® will do everything possible to prepare you for
the various processes involved in your home purchase, and will tie up
those loose ends quickly and efficiently, it's important for you to
remember that there is no such thing as a perfect world. The property
inspection may reveal areas of concern, or closing may be delayed for
some reason. Try to take a deep breath and be flexible in your
thinking. You will have a much greater chance of making your decisions
based on logic and not high emotion.
|Whenever you feel that
things are spinning out of control, find a diversion! Take a walk
around your new neighborhood, go on a day trip out of town with your
family, or take your family to a movie. Whatever diversion or outlet
works best for you, this is a good time to engage in it! Remember to
take one "move" at a time.